Comment sections on social media can be two things: absolute gold or a migraine/high blood pressure inducing crap show.
Mine was the latter this morning at 6am this morning while I was scrolling through the comments on a blog I read. Long story short, the well-written and RELATABLE (for me) piece incited yet another Stay-at-home-mom vs working outside of the home mom war.
Cue the eye-roll.
Can we stop being one-uppers? You know exactly what I mean…it goes something like this: “By the time I go to work, I have already been up taking care of kids for three hours”…”Yeah, well I have been up for 7 hours and even though I don’t leave the house for work, I am still working”…”Yeah, well I am up for 24 hours straight with 3 kids who I homeschool and then I go to work at night.”
Can. We. Stop.
Let’s agree on one thing? “Mommin” is hard.
Most days I am exhausted by the time I get to my office because, let’s be honest, the hour it takes to get the kiddos out of the door every morning is CHAOS. And I am sure it doesn’t matter if you work in or out of the home. “Please wake up, the bus is coming in 10 minutes…did you eat…I made you pancakes, you didn’t say you wanted cereal…please let me brush your hair…where are your shoes…what do you mean you didn’t do your homework, you said you didn’t have any…PLEASE WAKE UP…do not turn off Doc McStuffins, she was watching that…go brush your teeth…where are your socks…what do you mean you can’t find your underwear…GET OUT OF BED NOW!!!!”
That’s just before 8.
I don’t share this because my day is so much busier than anyone else’s…I share it because maybe someone out there can relate and realize that we truly are in this tribe called motherhood together. I hope like he$$ someone has mornings like mine so I know it’s just not something I am doing wrong.
Someone once asked, “Why don’t you blog about what it’s like to be a stay-at-home mom?” Well that’s simple…I can’t blog about what I don’t know. That doesn’t mean I don’t SUPPORT women who are stay-at-home moms. But if you want to know about my experiences showing up for meetings with the snot of one of my children on my shoulder or crushed Goldfish crackers stuck to the back of my sweater…than I am your girl. Full disclosure: there was a piece of a crayon stuck in my hair this morning.
Listen — nobody needs to justify why they’re a stay-at-home mom. Nobody needs to justify why they’re a working-outside-of-the-home mom. Nobody needs to put their daily schedule out on Broadway to prove how much crazier their days are and how much they do.
YOU DO YOU.
You do what’s best for your family.
Can we be honest and just admit that we are all drivers of similar struggle buses? It’s hard being a mom who stays at home the entire day. It’s hard being a mom who has to leave the house for the entire day.
IT’S HARD and WE GET IT.
And we see you. All of you.
Let moms who work outside of the home VENT without stay-at-home moms getting offended…
Let stay-at-home moms VENT without working-outside-of-the-home moms getting offended…
Better yet…can we drop the titles all together??
We’re MOMS. Period.
And we’re all MOMMIN’ SO HARD.